Couples Intensives in Lynnwood, WA & Online in WA and CA
Because you are tired of
having the same fight…
over and over again.
You keep getting stuck in the same pattern.
↠ One of you shuts down.
↠ The other pushes to be heard.
↠ Nothing actually gets resolved.
Afterward, you’re both left feeling hurt, misunderstood, or alone.
This can change.
Even if you’ve been stuck in the same pattern for years, couples can learn how to slow things down, understand each other differently, and repair in a way that actually lasts.
You don’t have to keep doing this the same way.
How Couples Intensive Can Help
Couple intensive helps you slow down enough to truly hear each other—beyond the reactions and into the deeper pain and longing underneath.
Instead of getting pulled into the same reactive cycle, we begin to notice what’s actually happening underneath it—your protective parts, your hurt parts, the parts that shut down, and the parts that work so hard to reach for connection.
In this work, we will:
↠Slow down the cycle so it doesn’t keep running the show
↠Get curious about the protective parts that show up during conflict (like the pursuer, the withdrawer, the critic, the shutdown)
↠Help each partner access more clarity and compassion toward their own inner system and each other
↠Create space for your deeper, more grounded Self to lead the interaction instead of the reactive parts
This isn’t just insight or communication skills.
It’s guided, in-the-moment work that helps you relate to yourself and your partner differently—right as the pattern is happening.
So you don’t just understand the cycle.
You begin to step out of it—AND REACH TOWARD EACH OTHER.
Prefer weekly sessions? See IFIO Couples Therapy
"Connection is the result of acting on the belief that we are worthy of being known."
— Brené Brown
HOW DO YOU ACHIEVE THAT?
I believe that couples deserve a space that is both structured and profoundly human. I integrate evidence-based approaches to create a roadmap for lasting change:
The Gottman Method: We’ll identify the negative cycles you keep falling into and build tangible tools for communication, repair, and staying connected during life's challenges.
IFIO (Internal Family Systems for Couples): We will slow things down to get curious about the "protective parts" that emerge during conflict—and help you return to the grounded, open places underneath them.
EMDR & Brainspotting: When deep-seated emotional wounds are triggered, I utilize these specialized techniques to help you process and heal them gently.
Somatic Integration: We will pay close attention to your body in real-time, focusing on the nervous system responses that often drive your reactive cycle.
The goal is simple: to help you move from reacting at each other to truly understanding one another again—in a way that feels steady, human, and deeply connected.
If shame has been getting in the way of reaching out for couples therapy, I hold this work with a lot of care. My goal is to create a compassionate space that feels steady, respectful, and non-judgmental—where both of you can show up honestly.
I offer couples intensives because, realistically, weekly therapy isn’t always doable when life is full. Intensives give you dedicated time to slow down, go deeper, and stay with what’s actually happening between you—so you can build skills and work through patterns in a more focused way, all in one day.
Hi! I’m Jane
Couples I Love Working With
Every relationship is unique, but many of the couples I work with are navigating something like this:
Dating or married couples who love each other but keep getting stuck in the same painful patterns
Couples where the mental load feels uneven. One partner is tracking everything (schedules, chores, emotional needs) and feels exhausted and unseen, while the other feels criticized or unsure how to help
Couples with kids who are stretched thin, running on empty, and struggling to find time or energy for each other
Interracial and intercultural couples navigating different family values, traditions, communication styles or experiences of race and identity
Couples facing conflict with in-laws or extended family, feeling caught between loyalty to family and loyalty to each other
If you see yourselves here, you're not alone, and you don't have to keep doing this the same way.
SAMPLE ONE DAY INTENSIVE SCHEDULE
09:00 to 10:15 Meditation and Assessment
10:15 to 10:30 Break
10:30 to 11:30 Tracking patterns and skills buildings
11:30 to 12:30 IFS unblending work, EMDR and/or Brainspotting work.
12:30 to 13:45 Lunch Break
13:45 to 14:45 Courageous communication
14:45 to 15:00 Break
1500 to 1600 Closing: debrief and feedback
*Please note: This is just an example of what a couples intensive can look like. Your day may look different, because every couple’s needs, pacing, and focus are unique—and we will shape the work around what is most important for you.
WHO IS THIS COUPLE INTENSIVE FOR?
✅ Couples who want to reconnect and feel close again
✅ Couples who feel stuck in the same conflict cycle and want something different
✅ Couples who are willing to be vulnerable (I will guide and support you throughout the process)
✅ Couples who are open to learning new skills and ways of relating
✅ Couples who are willing to take responsibility for their own patterns and grow
✅ Couples who want to understand each other more deeply, not just “fix” communication
✕ Active domestic violence or situations where emotional/physical safety is not present
✕ Active, ongoing affairs where there is no clarity, accountability, or commitment to repair
✕ Active substance use that significantly impairs emotional presence or stability during sessions
✕ Couples where one or both partners are unwilling to participate in the process
✕ Situations where there is no openness to self-reflection, accountability, or change
✕ Crisis situations requiring immediate stabilization or higher level of care before couples work
WHO IS THIS COUPLE INTENSIVE NOT FOR?
COUPLE INTENSIVE FEES
One-Day Intensive: $2,500
Includes a full-day intensive session (9:00 AM–4:00 PM) and one 60-minute follow-up session after the intensive.
Good Faith Estimate
In accordance with the No Surprises Act, you have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate outlining the expected cost of therapy services. This will be provided at the start of treatment.
Couples Intensive FAQs
1. How much does a couples intensive cost?
A one-day couples intensive is $2,500. This includes a full day of focused couples therapy (9 AM to 4 PM) and a 60-minute follow-up session afterward to help you integrate what you've learned. While it may seem like a larger investment up front, many couples find it's comparable to, or less than, months of weekly sessions, with more focused progress. Couples intensives are private pay, and you'll receive a Good Faith Estimate before we begin.
2. Is a couples intensive better than weekly therapy?
It depends on what you need. Weekly couples therapy offers steady, ongoing support over time. A couples intensive gives you a full day of uninterrupted, focused time together, so you can go deeper into your patterns without stopping just as things start to open up. Intensives are especially helpful if you've been stuck in the same fight for a long time, feel close to a breaking point, have busy schedules or want concentrated, intentional work. Many couples start with an intensive and then continue with weekly IFIO couples therapy.
3. Do you offer couples intensives online?
Yes. I offer couples intensives in person at my Lynnwood, WA office and online for couples anywhere in Washington and California. Many couples appreciate doing this deep work from the comfort and privacy of their own home.
READY TO START?
I offer couples intensives in person at my Lynnwood, WA office and online for couples anywhere in Washington and California. Your follow-up session can also be in person or online.
COUPLE INTENSIVE IN LYNNWOOD WA, online throughout WA & CA