Couples Intensive in Lynnwood, WA & Online
One focused day to stop having the same fight and start reaching for each other again.
In person near Seattle · Online throughout Washington & California · Led by a Certified EMDR & IFS Therapist with Gottman Method & IFIO Trainings
Having the Same Fight Over and Over Again?
It starts small. A tone, a forgotten text, who did the dishes.
Then one of you pushes to be heard. The other shuts down. Nothing actually gets resolved.
Afterward, you’re both left feeling hurt, misunderstood, or alone.
This can change.
Even if you've been stuck in the same pattern for years, couples can learn to slow things down, understand what's really happening between them, and repair in a way that lasts. You don't have to keep doing this the same way.
How a Couples Intensive
Can Help
A couples intensive gives you a full day to slow down enough to truly hear each other, beyond the reactions and into the hurt and longing underneath. Instead of stopping just as things open up, we keep going.
By the end of the day, couples often find they can:
Catch the cycle as it starts, before it turns into the same old fight
Understand why one of you shuts down and the other pushes, and what each of you actually needs in that moment
Respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness, even when things get heated
Repair after a hard moment, instead of going quiet for days
Feel like a team again, facing the problem together instead of facing each other
This isn't a lecture on communication skills. It's guided, in-the-moment work: we practice relating differently right as the pattern is happening. So you don't just understand the cycle. You step out of it, and reach toward each other.
Prefer weekly sessions? See IFIO Couples Therapy
"Connection is the result of acting on the belief that we are worthy of being known."
— Brené Brown
Couples I Love Working With
Every relationship is unique, but many of the couples I work with are navigating something like this:
Dating or married couples who love each other but keep getting stuck in the same painful patterns
Couples where the mental load feels uneven. One partner is tracking everything (schedules, chores, emotional needs) and feels exhausted and unseen, while the other feels criticized or unsure how to help
Couples with kids who are stretched thin, running on empty, and struggling to find time or energy for each other
Interracial and intercultural couples navigating different family values, traditions, communication styles or experiences of race and identity
Couples facing conflict with in-laws or extended family, feeling caught between loyalty to family and loyalty to each other
If you see yourselves here, you're not alone, and you don't have to keep doing this the same way.
I offer couples intensives because, realistically, weekly therapy isn't always doable when life is full. An intensive gives you dedicated time to slow down, go deeper, and stay with what's actually happening between you, all in one day.
If shame or worry about being judged has kept you from reaching out, I hold this work with a lot of care. My goal is a steady, respectful space where both of you can show up honestly, and where neither of you is the "bad guy."
My training:
Licensed Mental Health Counselor (WA) and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (CA)
EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist
Certified IFS Therapist (IFS Institute)
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP)
Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 2 training
IFIO trained therapist
In practice since 2009
Hi! I’m Jane
How a Couples Intensive Works
Free 20-minute call. We talk about what's going on and whether an intensive is a good fit. No pressure either way.
Intake and assessment. You will receive some paperwork and assessment tools prior to the intensive.
Your intensive day. A full day, 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM, in person in Lynnwood or online.
60-minute follow-up. A few weeks later, we check in on what's sticking and what to keep working on.
Sample One-Day Couples Intensive Schedule
9:00 – 10:15 am Meditation and assessment
10:15 – 10:30 AM Break
10:30 – 11:30 AM Tracking patterns and skill building
11:30 AM – 12:30 PM IFS, EMDR and/or Brainspotting work
12:30 – 1:45 PM Lunch break
1:45 – 2:45 PM Courageous communication
2:45 – 3:00 PM Break
3:00 – 4:00 PM Closing: debrief and next steps
*Please note: This is just an example of what a couples intensive can look like. Your day may look different, because every couple’s needs, pacing, and focus are unique—and we will shape the work around what is most important for you.
The Approaches Behind the Work
Couples deserve a space that's both structured and deeply human. I blend proven approaches so the day has a clear roadmap and still meets you where you are:
Gottman Method: Research-based tools to spot your negative cycle and build better ways to communicate, repair, and stay connected.
IFIO (Internal Family Systems for couples): We get curious about the reactions that take over during conflict, like the part of you that shuts down or the part that pushes, so the calmer, more open you can lead.
EMDR & Brainspotting: When an old wound keeps getting triggered between you, these gentle techniques help process it so it stops running the show.
Somatic work: We pay attention to what's happening in your body in real time, because the nervous system often drives the fight before words do.
The goal is simple: to help you move from reacting at each other to truly understanding each other again.
Couples Intensive Cost
One-Day Couples Intensive: $2,500
Includes:
Free 20-minute consultation
Full-day intensive, 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM
One 60-minute follow-up session
How it compares: Getting the same 6¼ hours of therapy through weekly 50-minute couples sessions would take 7–8 sessions, about two months. An intensive gets you there in one day, without stopping just as things start to open up.
Payment: Credit Card, HSA/FSA cards accepted.
Good Faith Estimate: In accordance with the No Surprises Act, you have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate of the expected cost of services. It will be provided before your intensive begins.
WHO IS THIS COUPLES INTENSIVE FOR?
✅ Couples who want to reconnect and feel close again
✅ Couples who feel stuck in the same conflict cycle and want something different
✅ Couples who are willing to be vulnerable (I will guide and support you throughout the process)
✅ Couples who are open to learning new skills and ways of relating
✅ Couples who are willing to take responsibility for their own patterns and grow
✅ Couples who want to understand each other more deeply, not just “fix” communication
✕ Active domestic violence or situations where emotional/physical safety is not present
✕ Active, ongoing affairs where there is no clarity, accountability, or commitment to repair
✕ Active substance use that significantly impairs emotional presence or stability during sessions
✕ Couples where one or both partners are unwilling to participate in the process
✕ Situations where there is no openness to self-reflection, accountability, or change
✕ Crisis situations requiring immediate stabilization or higher level of care before couples work
WHO IS THIS COUPLES INTENSIVE NOT FOR?
Couples Intensive FAQs
How much does a couples intensive cost? A one-day couples intensive is $2,500. That includes a free consultation, a full day of focused couples therapy (9 AM to 4 PM), and a 60-minute follow-up session. Many couples find it's comparable to, or less than, months of weekly sessions, with more focused progress.
Do you take insurance? Couples intensives are private pay only. You can often use an HSA or FSA card. You'll receive a Good Faith Estimate before we begin.
Is a couples intensive better than weekly therapy? It depends on what you need. Weekly therapy offers steady support over time. An intensive gives you a full day of uninterrupted time, so you can go deeper without stopping just as things open up. Intensives are especially helpful if you've been stuck for a long time, feel close to a breaking point, or have busy schedules. Many couples start with an intensive and continue with weekly IFIO couples therapy.
Do you offer couples intensives online? Yes. I offer intensives in person at my Lynnwood, WA office and online for couples anywhere in Washington and California. Many couples appreciate doing this work from the comfort and privacy of home.
What if my partner is hesitant? That's very common. One partner is often more ready than the other. The free 20-minute call is a low-pressure way for both of you to ask questions and see how it feels. Nobody gets blamed or ganged up on; my job is to support you both.
What if we start fighting during the intensive? That's okay, and actually useful. When the pattern shows up in the room, we can slow it down and work with it as it happens, which is hard to do at home. I'll help keep the day safe and steady for both of you.
How do we prepare for the day? Get a good night's sleep, eat well, and plan for a quiet evening afterward. For online intensives, choose a private room with reliable internet where you won't be interrupted. I'll send everything else you need before the day.
Is an online intensive as effective as in person? Many couples find online work just as effective, and some feel more relaxed at home. The structure, depth, and follow-up are the same either way.
READY TO START?
One day can shift a pattern you've been stuck in for years. Book a free 20-minute call, and we'll talk about what's happening between you and whether an intensive is the right next step.
In-person EMDR intensives in Lynnwood, WA, serving Seattle, Everett, Edmonds, Shoreline, Bothell, Mill Creek, and the greater Seattle area. Online Couples intensives for adults anywhere in Washington and California.